First of all, Penny announced to us that "It's just a wedding." She says she has no intention to make it an extravaganza, nor does she expect to make it "unique." She reads about so many brides trying to make their wedding special and unique and driving themselves crazy with all the details that goal produces. Penny says that it's just a wedding, and here are her details (these definitely follow the KISS--keep it simple stupid--formula):
The cake will be a simple white cake without any do-dads to make it fantastic. It's just a cake on which she will place two rather abstract ceramic love birds. I asked her what will be on the reception tables. She answered, "Tablecloths and flowers in a bowl." Beyond that she didn't care, but she settled on garden roses which are cheaper than other roses. The rectangular tables needed something at each end of the table, so she is making candle holders with Mason jars with a ribbon around the middle in her colors. I suggested anchoring the votive candles in some salt. She liked that and salt it is. Later I suggested using epsom salts for a more sparkly look, but she said the regular salt will be just fine. She is at the point where more details and decisions, even small ones, are just too much.
There will be no groom's cake, no candy buffet, no bouquet throwing, no garter throwing, no favors. She is printing up the ceremony program on her computer and putting it inside a card stock folder in her colors. Then she is printing their names on the card stock with a stamp she got at a craft store.
Penny likes my idea to put the menu on a chalkboard inside a picture frame. I "antiqued" a garage sale picture frame and spray painted chalkboard paint on a heavy cardboard. Mr. Pennies happened to have some artist's chalk that works wonderfully on this chalkboard. Penny likes the look, but she's also happy she doesn't have to print up menus! More money saved.
The reception is in an art gallery, so Penny sees no need to decorate it. The art is the decor. Done! I would have liked to do more to it, but it's not my decision. Where is she putting money? Into food that she thinks everyone will love. Does she sound like my daughter or not?!
We are looking forward to their wedding excitedly. We love the guy she is marrying--he fits into our family so well. We are also very pleased that Penny and her fiance think the vows are the most important part. It might not be the fanciest wedding around, but it will be meaningful and wonderful. Her father and I always say that the marriage is more important than the wedding. It seems Penny is following in our tradition. By the way, a few days after the wedding Penny's husband will be getting his wedding ring tattooed on. He'll also have a real ring, but he has to remove it sometimes at work. Now that's commitment!
I'll have more details about the wedding later, but we will respect their privacy. It's a very happy time in our family!